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The Yar of Happines and Luck

The yar of happiness and luck.

Yup, I am happy, really lucky, with a great passion – an amazing sport to life for (on the water and the snow), nice friendly people around, a loving family, a home, a nice van for the trips, trainings & competitions. Things are arranged well, the things I cannot do alone I got help with – mostly. A life filled with fun, exciting adventures, sports and development. Travel the world at times, a nice study & work.  It’s great, something I’m proud & grateful about.

But happiness doesn’t knock on the door for free

You don`t just catch happiness and luck from the air, neither you can find the rest in a jar after throwing some around – saving some for later in case you need some. Or buy a jar of happiness and luck at the local supermarket. Neither it`s finished for you, after I had some luck, no there is enough for everyone. I also didn`t catch happiness and luck from the sky, neither it blow into my hands. It is tough, I worked hard for it, made difficult not to say impossible decisions…and I still have to do sometimes.  Something I suppose you have to do to… And I won`t take it for less now. It will be all worth it, promised. Once the decision is taken, go for it – there is no way back anyway.                 

“You can own it all, visit it all, but if you are never grateful for this opportunities, you will never find happiness and luck. When you have the ability to be always grateful, it doesn’t matter where you are” – something I learned along the way.

Happiness isn`t in a jar – Happiness is a choice.

Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions. I am surprised about the amount of people, complaining: finding themselves in a situation they are not happy about. But also then they don’t want to do anything about it.  I always learned: “If you do what you`ve always done, You’ll get what you`ve always got”. So if you are unlucky, you will stay unlucky, as simple as that. Just telling you the facts.

So, that means if you don’t do something else, everything will remain the same over and over again,  you will stay unlucky. Some health issues, you can’t do anything about, but the situation, the environment you are in, you can change. The mindset you can work on. Do what you can with what you have. Where you are.

I get it, in one way being unlucky feels safe. In your own cocoon.  You know what you have and what you don`t. You can safely complain. Especially now with social media. The pressure to being above average, showing all forms of happiness is high. We cannot hide, we face it all the time:  the people with special talents, who have everything.. Being average is almost scary… In the other way,  I can’t imagine you will be lucky in that cocoon. What I can imagine, that it is hard breaking through the shell.  But once you try you will find out eventually; “Because what is being average..?” I believe everyone is special in its own way and everyone is having his or her own talents to achieve great things in a different way – it doesn`t need to be shown on social media, you’re awesome in real life already!  We don’t have a choice whether we do social media, the question is how well we do it .  (don’t ask google ask me..!)  

“Luck is when opportunity knocks and you answer”

Luck & happiness begins with the decision to no longer feel sad. You have the power to choose what to accept and what to let go. Life is given but how you live is your responsibility. Being present and finding the joy in every moment. Believe in what will be, be grateful for what remains. 

One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you cannot change. It is what it is. You have the power to choose what to accept and what to let go. Focus on yourself. See the bigger picture, you don’t need to fit in or be compared. Live your life according to your own rules!

The yar of happiness and luck isn`t a yar. It`s a decision.

Give it a chance! May I suggest to try, before letting me know luck comes to me for free, and I have a yar full of it. Please be vulnerable to ask for help, read, talk.. try, try again.  Take more chances, be more active and show up. The best way to find happiness is not to wait for it, it is not the absence of problems, it is the ability to deal with them.

 Believe me or not I have been stuck in that cocoon many times, finding myself doing the same over and over again, waiting for? The yar of luck? No, from that moment I teach myself to do whatever makes me happy – no matter what other people “so called friends” think or do. They will push you around, you shouldn’t care. You only live once and if you do it right, once is enough. When finding out what change can give you.. you get good at it.

I am one of that persons that loves change, fair, development, fear it is what makes me happy, excited and chasing the things worth living for. I get a kick under my ass a lot of times, either I do it myself or someone else will do it.  But life gets more exciting like that though. Go on a journey of discovery. Making mistakes is allowed, giving up NOT.

“you deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life you are excited about. Don`t let others make you forget that or take that from you. Being happy and lucky doesn’t come from having it all, it comes from appreciating what you already have”

Just in case you want to know, at the moment of writing this, I just published  my blog – My passport back in action. I also just arrived in Greece after an adventurous road. At the spot, but I couldn`t find my thing, be happy in the place, feel safe sleeping alone. No – one around yet and wind from the wrong direction. So, what the hell;  I just decided to move on. In a split second I booked a ticket. Take the ferry to …Paros and even that was hard, because of the suddenly bad weather, strong wind the ferry didn’t go. After a night of driving, one day in the sunny line (-useless). And the last ticket in de night sold out, a night in the middle of the harbour..  I almost thought what did I do now again. But hey I just went the next morning on the ferry……… and visited Athens for the night. Enjoyed the evening watching the boats and fisherman. Taking a shower on the parking lot, slept in front of the boat.  I was thinking; “will it all be worth it….?!”. But NO that`s wrong. It will be worth it, definitely. I have never been on that island before and … I am here right here, right now living life. Enjoy it and be lucky for the chance given to travel and kite all around the world.  And take a shower on the parking lot… who can say that…..;)          .. And I had the best time on Paros!

Last but not least: What makes you happy doesn’t have to make sense to others! If you don’t like something, change it. If you cannot change it, change your attitude.   

Perfection can’t stay there, you can’t stay on the line of perfection, perfection is the straight line through life. Life goes up and down and will occasionally hit that line – that perfection: that one moment, that one peak you need to win – that one moment of perfection – a happy and lucky moment: That will stay with you!

Mariska Wildenberg
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